Within the first couple hours of our road trip to Colorado earlier this month, we lost a wallet. Not fun, right? Here’s what happened. We stopped at a convenience store just over an hour away from home to grab some soda and juice. My sweetheart started to give me his wallet to pay, and I said, no – it’s ok – I have mine.
We kept driving. To Alexandria, Louisiana. Now about four and a half hours from home. And we got to the hotel, and my sweetheart said, “Honey, what did you do with my wallet?” Oh. No. My stomach dropped. Had he handed me his wallet while he went to the bathroom? What did I do with it? Did I leave it on the counter? We searched high and low. In every possible nook and cranny in the car. We didn’t find it. It was 10 p.m.
Ok, so I asked myself, what’s perfect about this? (Very hard in a situation like this, believe me.) I always start with, “We’re ok.” Then, “There wasn’t that much money in it.”, Then, “Only one credit card to cancel.” We got on the phone and took care of that.
Then there was the matter of the driver’s license. And here the angels intervened. 1. We were still in Louisiana. 2. We had internet and a laptop to easily search for Motor Vehicle offices. 3. The office in Alexandria was literally less than a five-minute drive from our hotel! Can’t you hear the angelic choirs singing??
We went there the next day, first thing. And there wasn’t much of a wait. (Go, angels!) And they renewed my sweetheart’s license so he won’t have to wait in line in a couple of months in New Orleans. And then it was done and we were on our way.
“Ok”, you say. “I get it. Angels intervened. But what about the power of story? Why is that in the title?” Well, a couple of reasons. We could have used a lot of energy telling a really different story about this. About how awful it was. About how we couldn’t believe that no one had turned in the wallet (we did call the convenience store – amazing that we were able to remember which one and find its number online!) About all the money we’d lost. About the hassle of changing online accounts to new credit card numbers. About how stupid I was for leaving the wallet on the counter, or wherever I’d left it. We could have seen it as a “bad omen” for our whole trip.
But we didn’t. We had a fantastic trip. We didn’t even think about it much except that my sweetie had to ask me for my credit card when we’d stop for gas.
And then we came home. And you will never guess what was on my sweetheart’s desk. Did you guess? You’re right! His wallet. Because he’d never brought it in the first place. He’d only offered to pay. He had never actually handed me his wallet! We’d completely fabricated that part of the story!
And here’s where the angels actually intervened. What if we had realized we didn’t have the wallet at the convenience store- one hour away from home? We would have probably driven back to get it, which would have taken more than twice as long as what we ended up doing. And it would have been a very un-fun two hours. In traffic.
I make up stories all the time – I create motives, fabricate background information, and selectively remember facts. And I just finished a book, a rather dark book, but an incredible story that illustrates this so well. It’s called The Sense of An Ending, by Julian Barnes. It’s a short, engaging novel that so clearly illustrates the power of story to affect real lives. You’ll think you know what’s happening right up until the end – I won’t spoil it.
So, what stories are you telling yourself these days about the circumstances around you? Do you have a good example of how you turned around what seemed like crummy circumstances into a better story? Are you noticing the intervention of angels/the universe/luck, or whatever you want to call it, in your life? I’d love to hear! Email me at carla@livingwildandprecious.com or share your story in the comments below.
Joanna Z. Weston said:
I have to tell you how impressed I am that you guys didn’t turn that into a blame-and-panic-fest. Go you for sticking to the reality of the situation having an awesome trip regardless!
Carla said:
So funny how I think things continue to shift for me in this department. It takes time and maybe some experience to realize that panic isn’t helpful. And that it’s really not any bigger deal than we make it. Of course it was a relief to hear from the credit card company that no one had gone out and bought a big screen tv – of course they hadn’t – because the wallet was at home, lol! 🙂 But we didn’t know that part – only the angels knew that part 😉 !
Katie McClain said:
That is a great story Carla! Amazing that the wallet was home the whole time. I’m also impressed you both handled it so well and moved on and had a great trip. Very great!
Carla said:
It wasn’t perfect – there was some stress and a few shed tears, but it didn’t last long – the best part is that there wasn’t the need to make the other one feel crappy for long periods of time, both when I thought I’d lost the wallet and when we got home and found it here. Just a big laugh – and a realization of this giant wink from the universe! (Although I must admit I was a little relieved to be exonerated!):)
Ruth said:
A good read this morning! Good story Carla. Ahh, the universe!
Jan Schluter said:
I don’t have a story, but this makes me think of Dr. Chin-Chin Ho, who is the psychologist that my son sees. He is working on social skills; specifically trying to control outbursts and to think before he speaks. She tells him that our actions are a result of our thoughts, and sometimes all we need to do is change the thought to avoid angry outbursts. It’s something I am working on for myself, too.
I love reading your posts! Thanks, Jan
Carla said:
Awesome, Jan! That’s one of the things I do for a living now – help people realize that they don’t need to believe their thoughts and that they have power to choose their thoughts. It’s amazing stuff! Thanks so much for commenting and hugs to you and your son. What would the world be like if all kids were given access to these tools so they didn’t have to wait to be grown up to figure it out?? That would be pretty cool! I’m still convinced that this stuff could feasibly save the world… That and worldwide four day work week with three days of unabashed play, and lots of napping. 😉
Laura Wagner said:
Love it, Carla — and that wallet was at home! What a twist, but that’s the way it unfolds sometimes. I especially love that you started with “we’re okay” and went from there instead of building the trip on losses or blame or exasperation. Thank you for sharing this.
Carla said:
Thanks, Laura! It’s all choices, right? And like I said, there were some tears and some rough-ish moments the first night, but they passed pretty quickly. I’m a lucky girl with a best friend for a husband…
victoria said:
Carla…….loved your story! It is all about the story we tell around the circumstance. Sounds to me that your husband is a lucky guy with a best friend (and wise) for a wife!
Carla said:
Aww – yes, I think we’re both lucky! 🙂
Stephanie said:
This is freaking awesome! First, in that you were both open to the possibility of perfection where you were and the angels all around you. Second, that you had the momentary thought of “What’s perfect in this moment?”, even when it’s hard. (Because, really, isn’t that when it’s *most* necessary?) And third, the ultimate question which we have talked a lot about in my meditation training: What’s the storyline? Then, we practice dropping it and sitting with what’s really underneath the dog-chasing-tail-craziness of where our stories can take us.
Hooray!
(And adding that book to my Good Reads list! It sounds fascinating.)